Thriving among stress and irritation. Spell working tips for a witch

Thriving amongst stress and irritation. That's what Witches do! Every skilled Witch knows to stay emotionally neutral in all her relationships to maintain a sense of agency and personal magic with self-control. 

Because of interactions with other flawed human beings, any one of us can get kicked out of our personal power zone. We may be having difficulty living up to expectations at work, in the family, or in other places (e.g., a Coven) where we feel emotionally invested. Some coworkers and bosses can be such narcissistic bullies and there's POTENTIAL that we as witches can take strength from those scenarios as well. (Hint: A narcissist RELIES on you to feel weak, hurt, confused, and/or mentally conflicted. Do not give that power to him!)

To avoid getting hijacked, in an emotional swirl, so that you lose your sense of equilibrium or power, it's important to have techniques for maintaining your most calm sense of self. Allowing your emotions to heighten means you become a victim to such emotional vampires. Extreme emotions can make you stop thinking logically. Witches know that their power lies in having the mental acuity to direct energy. They are in charge of whatever narrative they tell themselves. Maintaining a sense of efficacy (the ability to produce a desired or intended result) requires that a Witch be prepared with good mental fodder so she can remain in a state of self-awareness and calm.

Below I present methods for moving stress THROUGH your system (e.g., put on a rage song and dance it out - whatever it takes for you to move rage/hurt out of your body when dealing with someone who is irregular - do that!) That is how you get back into your body and take back control of who you are. 

We've all experienced undesired emotions (sadness, betrayal, hurt, mental fuckery). An experienced Witch does not hold on to such chaos or pain but sends that emotion to move through and away from Her. The intensity of any emotion only lasts in waves that pass in about 90 seconds. That's why deep breathing helps to regain mental clarity. It also helps if the Witch can focus on the situation that's harming Her from a non-emotional point of view while she's doing that deep breathing. "I am breathing. I am alright!"

YOU ARE THE MASTER OF YOUR EVERY THOUGHT/EMOTION

Usually, whatever causes an emotionally tense response in you comes from the story that you're telling yourself about the facts in a situation. So if you can switch your thinking to something that's more objective (less subjective) it will predispose you to get back into your power. 

When Muggles get upset, they ask: "Why is this happening TO me?" As a Witch, when we are in a situation where it feels like things are not going our way - we ask "why might this be happening FOR me?" Therein lies the Witch's power. 

Instead of allowing yourself to feel like a victim, take charge and ask: "What is the learning?" and "What is the opportunity?" These questions enable every Witch to switch Her perspective, and a Witch's perspective is EVERYTHING! That's where her magic lies!

EXAMPLE:
Maybe it's your approach and not the other person who behaves defiantly, that is the problem. Asking "Why might this be happening FOR me?" will enable you to see how your interactions are influencing that other person.

On a personal level, I previously created "problems" just by being too helpful or too kind to coworkers. When they started being MEAN to me, dumping all their work on me last minute after we had all been preparing for a big project together, I had to ask myself, "What is the learning?" "What POWER can I take from this experience?" "Why might this be happening FOR me?" 

In every relationship, there is an exchange between you and the "irregular" who is causing you grief. What is in it for them? Knowing what motivates them will give you more power to capitalize on the situation. Move that energy toward the more desired outcome that you seek. 

In my workplace, I've learned to admit, "No. I don't have time to run those files over to you. I will leave them here in the office for you to pick up." Just by entertaining that small thought - by asking? "How am I contributing to this story? Why is this happening FOR me?" I began to see the energetic strings that connected my behavior to the other individuals. I began setting healthier boundaries and (oddly enough) respect came to me as a result.

RITUAL TECHNIQUES

Other perspectives that can be added to deep breathing follow: (these tips go beyond visualizing that undesirable emotion and moving it down into the Earth, where our Mother can convert it into fertilizer for the betterment of everyone) 

Grounding and Centering

• Meditation and Mindfulness: Regular practice can significantly reduce stress levels. Focus on your breath, body sensations, and the present moment. "At this moment, I am SAFE. Everything is working together for my best interest."
  
• Here's a powerful guided meditation by Louise Hay: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HSodrY_V3FY
• Earthing: Connect with nature. Walk barefoot on grass, hug a tree, or simply sit outside to breathe in fresh air. This grounds your energy and helps you feel more centered.

Protection and Cleansing

• Protective Spells: Create a personal protection amulet or spell to shield yourself from negative energy.
• Cleansing Rituals: Use smoke cleansing (sage, palo santo) or salt (make a spritz of salt water to call upon the Ocean for strength when you need Her). Do whatever works best for you to purify your aura and space.

Stress Relief and Calm

• Calm and Peace Spells: Utilize herbs like lavender, chamomile, or valerian in spells, baths, or teas.
• Visualization: Imagine yourself in a peaceful place. This can be a powerful tool for relaxation.  
• Energy Work: Practice energy healing techniques like Reiki or Qi Gong to balance your energy field.

Boosting Resilience

• Strength and Courage Spells: Work with symbols of strength, like the ox, an oak tree, a rowan, or High John Conqueror root, to enhance your resilience. Crystals also help empower the Witch.
• Affirmation Magic: Create positive affirmations and repeat them daily to build self-confidence. 

        EXAMPLES:

• "I am the most terrifying fortress of calm in this forest of chaos."
• "My inner strength is far greater than this external storm."
• "I am capitalizing on all the energy that touches down around me and I am redirecting it for my best advantage."

Additional Tips

• Journaling: Write about your feelings to release emotional tension.
• Exercise: Physical activity helps reduce stress and improve mood.  
• Healthy Diet: Nourishing your body supports overall well-being.   
• Sleep: Prioritize adequate sleep for optimal mental and physical health. A Witch needs to be healthy to be powerful. Eat fresh food and take care of your body!